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Three helpful hints

There are many ideas about how to raise a child, and many children grow up to become wonderful adults in spite of poor parenting- but here are some solid ideas that will help your young children become young adults with positive self-esteem and eyes towards success.

1. You must be a strong & positive role model. Children are always watching the world around them. If we are lazy & disrespectful, they will learn these things. If we are honest& hardworking, they will see us that way & understand that idea as good. IF we respect other& take time to listen to others, our children will learn respect & the ability to listen too. Parents/ Guardians must live their own lives with honesty& integrity in order to raise children who will turn into adults that show these traits.


2. Set clear and reasonable boundaries for your children. You must consistent in keeping them. Children thrive when they know what is expected. On the flip side, flexibility is important for parents, exceptions can be made and explanations should be short and simple. When boundaries and limits are changed, there are some boundaries that are crucial to positive development;
   • Bedtimes
   • Family routines
   • Telling the truth
   • The amount of TV/computer (along with the type of shows and games)
   • Chores & homework
   Be aware of age levels and make slow and easy adjustments as your child develops.


3. Take time, daily, to listen to your child. Create a time or routine that you do together that enables them to tell you how their day went, what they liked what they learned, what was not so good. Read to/ with them. Create a safe place and time for you and your child to bond. And keep it going for as many years as you can ( my son at 16 still loved his own time before bed to talk to me)!

Contact us for more parenting information. Or ask a question of our counselors and have your questions answered!